Here’s a question that showed up in my in-box today: Sometimes, when my boyfriend and I have anal sex, it’s really fun. But other times, it just doesn’t work. That doesn’t happen when we have regular intercourse. What are we doing wrong? It’s sort of hard to give you a specific answer since there are …
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Four Things You Need To Know To Have Awesome Anal Sex
It probably won’t surprise you to hear that I love anal sex. After all, I’m one of the authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, and I teach lots of workshops about anal play, prostate massage, and related topics. Of course, that’s not all I do, but given how many people fantasize about anal …
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Orgasm From Prostate Stimulation Alone?
Here’s a question I got from a reader: Is it possible to ejaculate from prostate stimulation alone? If so, is it a matter of time..using vibration..or applying more pressure perhaps? I have seen videos online of men having a hands free orgasms or ejaculating a slow stream of cum as they stimulate themselves. I have …
Troubleshooting Your Pegging Gear
Here’s a question that came in via Facebook: We need a good harness and dildo. I know there’s issues with dildo materials being toxic, which is why I am hesitant to shop online. If you have recommendations I’d be thrilled. The other issue I’ve had in the past has been dildo angle. Most harnesses cause …
It’s Not About The Size
One of the most frequent questions I hear about prostate play (once we get past the common concerns) is whether something as slim as a finger or the Aneros MGX is going to do anything. After all, we’re so used to thinking that bigger is better, so how can a slender toy or a finger …
Prostate Massage Without Penetration: The Sweet Spot
I often get asked whether anal penetration is the only way to do prostate massage. You might be surprised to hear that the answer is no. You can do lots of fun prostate play by massaging the perineum, which is the area between the balls and the anus. The prostate is a few inches above …
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Add A Little Extra To Pegging With These Great Toys
I get a lot of questions from women who want to try pegging or who have given it a shot, and want to get a little more pleasure out of the experience. Of course, lots of women get off on the experience of pegging, even if they don’t get much direct physical stimulation from it. …
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Three Ways To Give An Amazing Prostate Massage
Prostate massage can be one of the most incredible sexual experiences. Fingers are incredibly sensitive and versatile, so you can give your partner all sorts of different pleasures. Here are some tips to supercharge your techniques. First, more isn’t always better. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if a little is …
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Does Anal Sex Cause Hemorrhoids?
Here’s a question I got on Facebook: Do you have a grasp of the research on the link between anal sex as a cause for hemorrhoids? Any chance you’ve encountered something like a metastudy? Some sex educators and columnists claim there’s no link. And I see some medical sites do claim a link, but these …
Prostate Play For Gay Men
When we wrote our book, one of our first steps was to send out a survey to find out what experiences and concerns men and their partners had about prostate play. Among our other questions, we asked men to tell us how often prostate play was part of their anal sex experiences, and the answers …